Reality Check
Friday, September 5, 2014
Love Actually
There is not always a happy ending involved. Sometimes the love is one-sided or inconvenient. You can be in love with someone that cannot give you what you need. You can be in love with someone who is in love with someone else. Bottom line is we don't always have that movie moment love. It's important to get the life lesson from that experience though. If you love someone that cannot give you what you need, you have to find contentment in not being with them, don't settle. Hurt, cry, wish, but never settle. So sad is the woman sitting idly by while she let's her love for the wrong man drive her into a ditch. And don't even get me started on that whole knitting and cats existence. Love is like a plant, the more you nurture it, the more it will grow. So if you find yourself watering the seeds of love for a man that cannot cherish the very essence of your existence...it is time to get the weed be gone. Occupy your time, read, exercise, learn a language, start a trend, write, do whatever you have to do to not sit around pining away for someone that is not for you. Love can feel so involuntary that you wonder how you exist without this person. But life...living is knowing that just like that horrible hairdo you had in the 8th grade, you can push past this. No need to be his doormat or settle for his late night "hey what are you doing?" text. Love is not an excuse to shortchange yourself, because if you do then all you find is you're worth less.
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Whole, Complete, Individuals
Friday, July 6, 2012
Just a little bit of grey goes a long way
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
The Best Thing I Never Had
My ex-husband recently made it clear that he had made a mistake and that he misses me and still loves me. Only thing that popped into my mind was "Sucks to be you right now". Often times songs like "Best I Never Had" by Beyonce and "Blame it on Me" by Chrisette Michele are dismissed as underrated or even bitter but in all honesty those songs reflect real feelings. They are valid places in a person's (not just a woman's) life. Some relationships just need to be over and that is A-ok. When I read my ex-husband's words, I literally embodied Beyonce and was thinking "thank God you blew it, thank God I dodged a bullet"....it was the best thing for my life. It was almost a mini celebration for me. Not because he was filled with regret, but because I was at a place where I could see the situation for what it was and could not be sucked back in by those 4 words that can break a woman down "I Still Love You". I've stated in previous entries, love is not enough to be with someone. It takes more. In that moment I will admit I did feel vindicated because my ex realized something I already knew...I'm a good woman and he was lucky if not blessed with a miracle to have had me. But it's more than that...it's closure with a rhythm and a beat.
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
10 out of 10 men have penises, what else you got?
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Basketball Debauchery
So half of the people I know are addicted to this show "Basketball Wives" and the other ones about women with crazy relationships with famous people. I've seen the show but I don't watch it on a consistent basis. The show does what most shows do, create drama and ridiculous arguments centered around trivial issues that no real person would care about. But as I came to that evaluation I wondered if other women feel like that or do a lot of us have lives that mirror these shows; after all they are still on the air. Why do we as women like so much to talk about each other and gossip? Why do we like to see other people do it? One girl was mad b/c her friend said something about her ridiculously stupid relationship with a man who changed his name to "ocho cinco". Are this characters or are they real people that exist in society? I guess for every "For Colored Girls" women that have real things going on and developing unfortunate strength, there's "Basketball Wives" petty women with nothing going on but arguments and failed marriages/relationships. I wonder when it became more important to make money and embarrass ourselves than to set an example for generations to come and achieve excellence. I see why the bible condemns seeking riches and money...it can really make you ugly. And nothing is uglier than those lovable wives.