Love Actually

The movies would have us to believe that one day love walks up to you with a gun and forces you into the arms of the person you're supposed to be with forever (the cupid with a bow and arrow reference needed an edge). Then after a series of well placed soundtracks and moment moving tears you end up with that special someone and everything works out. That's why movies are only 2 hours long. In reality you kind of stumble into caring for a person all hopped up on emotions and choose to nurture a love that may or may not be healthy, toxic, fruitful, useless...
There is not always a happy ending involved. Sometimes the love is one-sided or inconvenient. You can be in love with someone that cannot give you what you need. You can be in love with someone who is in love with someone else. Bottom line is we don't always have that movie moment love. It's important to get the life lesson from that experience though. If you love someone that cannot give you what you need, you have to find contentment in not being with them, don't settle. Hurt, cry, wish, but never settle. So sad is the woman sitting idly by while she let's her love for the wrong man drive her into a ditch. And don't even get me started on that whole knitting and cats existence. Love is like a plant, the more you nurture it, the more it will grow. So if you find yourself watering the seeds of love for a man that cannot cherish the very essence of your existence...it is time to get the weed be gone. Occupy your time, read, exercise, learn a language, start a trend, write, do whatever you have to do to not sit around pining away for someone that is not for you. Love can feel so involuntary that you wonder how you exist without this person. But life...living is knowing that just like that horrible hairdo you had in the 8th grade, you can push past this. No need to be his doormat or settle for his late night "hey what are you doing?" text. Love is not an excuse to shortchange yourself, because if you do then all you find is you're worth less.