Whole, Complete, Individuals

I am becoming increasingly aware of the ability of women to be taken outside of themselves because of something someone else has done to them. Just tonight I have been bombarded with women who are "losing it" behind some mess a less than worthy man has pulled (emphasis on less than worthy because there are some men that are worthy). My pastor's wife told me something that I think all my sisters should know. She told me "you cannot have a successful marriage until you are a whole, complete individual." Now I took that and realized it applies to all relationships. If you don't know who you are, if you are missing something...then that means you are open to someone else telling you what it is you are worth, should have, be, get, or deserve. Missing small things is not so bad; we all could improve. But if you don't have self worth, if you don't have sophisticated standards for yourself, if you do not know your own currency you are in a DANGEROUS situation. When you are looking to fill a void, you will accept anyone and anything filling it in. Problem is, it should be filled by you. When you know your worth, you will glide ever so spectacularly away from anyone not willing to realize it. When you have a fulfilled heart, mind, and spirit you will say, "thanks, but no thanks" to anyone trying to fix, change, belittle, or sell you short. You find it increasingly harder to get so angry and frustrated by people who are not worth your perspiration in the first place, and shame on you for taking the time to entertain such foolishness. Ladies, we have to stop getting angry at the mess that is some people we dealt with when we chose to let them enter our world in the first place. Stop seeking fulfillment in people, places, and things. If you cannot be content in your skin, alone, at home...no one or nothing to validate you...guess what self-refection time. If you have drama constantly in your life, repeated bad experiences with men, fights with friends...there's one common factor, you. Whole, complete individuals don't let others dictate their lives. Everyone falls short and everyone hurts but when you know who you are you know that moment in time cannot define you.