I met this guy about 2 weeks ago at a cookout in the Bronx who was attractive. We exchanged numbers and have been in contact over a series of shallow text messages and short lived conversations. I determined he is a bit younger than me and I mean age wise and experience wise. We haven't seen each other since we met that day. Now for reasons Ill explain in a sex blog I am celibate and do not give off the expectation of sex b/c I am in no way going to deliver. The closest thing to sexual I have asked this man is "are you affectionate?" I don't talk to him late night, although I don't believe a late night convo should automatically indicate sexual desire. I don't discuss my sex life or preferences. Truth be told, I'm crazy sexually but I don't know him so why share that with him? This man randomly sent me a pic of his penis next to a cablevision remote. (Stop thinking about how big that remote is and focus) Now I can be aroused by a sexy pic, but one of your genitals and I don't even know if I want to see you again?! The society we are in seems to reward overt sexuality and validate promiscuity. Why is your value and validation wrapped up in sex? And why are people not checking this? If I wanted to see your penis I would ask. My friend always tells me people tell you how to treat them, so an unsolicited pic of your member tells me to treat you like a dick. And if I'm not looking for a booty call, not telling you you're behavior is not ok, tells you to treat me like jump off. Women we need to do a better job of trying to set our standards and sticking with it. Don't be afraid to tell men how to treat you. And you don'+t have to flip out, just be clear without anger or regret. I came up with my standards as a whole, complete, person void of influence and based on what I know I need right now. That doesn't waiver because you have a nice job or a big...."remote".
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